Friday, May 24, 2013

Girls Just Wanna Have More: Lena Dunham's Hit HBO Show and the Rise of Millennial Dissatisfaction Tropes


          It can be considered that we are different people every second we are alive, in the way I read once that we can never step into the same river twice (the flowing-all-the-time water forbidding it.) All this water movement (and, more importantly, the movement being horrifically out of our control) reminds me of the chorus of the lesser known Stone’s song (originally written and performed by Otis Redding, no doubt) “(Dis)satisfaction,” and how we can get ourselves plenty of it if we obsessively reach for that next cool thing we don’t have. “(Dis)satisfaction” was playing on a Walkman while my father tried to wade across a whitewater river in Colorado, and my mother begged him to stop because she knew he couldn’t swim. He made it to the other side and was fourteen different people as he survived it, and the river was over four hundred different rivers because of the water current speed. The water current speed polished the flat stones of the riverbed, and the stones were many different stones in the time it took my father to climb up the other side bank in his big shorts. I was nine years old and the Houston Rockets were about to claim the NBA championship while Michael Jordan was out shagging fly balls. Briefly, while my father was his eighth or ninth different person of the wade, I imagined how his body might tumble down the river and bounce off Colorado boulders until I was fatherless. While he was on his tenth and eleventh different person, I took moments to imagine him gone forever down the river, and I was dissatisfied right along with the song playing in my ears. When he survived on the other bank, the song ended and the family talked about the satisfaction that comes from a properly cooked salmon fillet.
            All of this is to say that, in a roundabout way, if I had to guess at an overall theme for the first two seasons of Lena Dunham’s HBO series Girls, I would guess “dissatisfaction” and feel dissatisfied with my guess. I watched the first season of Girls after a familial birthday present DVD purchase went characteristically wrong, and held a two-day marathon viewing of the second season online while my new roommate ate frozen pizza next to me and looked content. At certain points during the second season, the two-year-old pit bull sat with us on the couch and rested her big head on my left knee looking dissatisfied. At these moments, on the living room couch in front of the silver computertelevision, the three of us were at our most misguided summer vacation twentysomethingness (the pit bull being adolescent in her dog-yeared body, but close enough to get the gist), and I recognized, for better or worse, that we were, on that gray couch of dog shed:

1.     Unrecognizably handsome with nowhere to show our faces in town
2.     Not living in one of the trendier boroughs of New York City
3.     Past the years of having casual sex with mail carriers (if the years ever existed at all)
4.     Very much writing people with voices in our heads telling us to not write (these voices coming from other people we know somewhat well, and also our own voices influenced by these other voices, negatively.)
5.     Begrudging Millennials with our eyes set on an innocuous prize “out there.”
6.     Stuck in a Girls-themed game of carrot-hanging-from-the-end-of-the-stick, where the carrot represents “fulfillment” and the stick’s length is mathematically represented in the following equation: lifespan (to the present moment) + opportunity x privilege ÷ expectations [note: the total, due to the inordinately high value of the expectations, always equals less than 1. And 1 is the goal so, you know, everything sucks.]

For those of you who haven’t sufficiently trekked the Girls terrain, allow me to break the poshy landscape down for you: The female (and male, for that matter) characters of Girls have a lot of good shit going for them, but that doesn’t keep them from wanting/kind of demanding and/or laying claim to more good shit. They have college degrees and, often, intro-level jobs, but they want Mac-adorned offices and careers that caress their creative minds and oversized egos (and they want these jobs, and their accompanying pay raises, yesterday.) They have comfortable apartments to live in, but drool over luxurious brownstones and dream of the days when they’ll be able to not only have enough money to own their own swanky places, but also fill them out with furniture and art from (insert names of trendy boutiques and galleries here.) They have, where applicable, stable relationship partners, but they want dangerously exotic sex adventures where they desperately need and are desperately needed, where they are romantic objects of affection and amateur porn stars at the same time (they also want intelligent, respectful conversations with their partners to fill the mornings after the sex adventures. duh.) In short, the women of Girls have educations, jobs, money, homes, friends, lovers, but want better jobs, more money, cooler homes, cooler friends, better lovers. They want and, interestingly, feel like they deserve (for reasons best considered in future posts) upgraded versions of their lives. They, like many Americans, want the almighty More (i.e., the Supersized life, without the extra calories.)
            And it isn’t (Dunham's alter ego) Hannah and her posse’s constant push for More (or subsequent disdain for what they consider to be their own sorrowful lots of Less) that irks me. It’s that I’m pretty sure Dunham wants me to empathize with Hannah’s existential woes (cue not-so-subtly sad orchestral music when Hannah’s sweet-ass-internship director does not [gasp!] offer her a salaried position after all her hard work writing copy for I don’t know like twenty hours a week or something.) But how can I, or anyone, empathize with a kid who gets a piece of chocolate cake and cries because it doesn’t taste the way she thought it would (or, maybe even worse, because it is not [double gasp!] served on a vintage dessert plate)? Are viewers actually supposed to forget that not everybody gets a piece of chocolate cake? Are we supposed to forget that chocolate cake signifies surplus (i.e., it is only served after all nutritionally adequate foods have been consumed. And if not everybody is getting the chocolate cake, are we supposed to forget that it is likely that not everybody is getting dinner either?) Are we to forget all of this and start craving a piece of (More-flavored) chocolate cake of our own?
After completing the many hours of show (some of them viewed from locations as exotic as a fourth-floor Quality Inn and Suites bedroom couch in Lansing, Michigan), I suspect Hannah has rarely fleeced her More-hungry shoulders in Dr. Dustin Hoffman’s I Heart Huckabees therapeutic universe blanket. For if she had clothed herself in the universe blanket, she would know that “Everything she could ever want or be, she already has or is.” Dr. Hoffman’s point being, of course, that if one looks strictly outside of oneself for "fulfillment" (perhaps the ultimate More), one’s bound to get mad exhausted during the search (see carrot-hanging-from-the-end-of-the-stick reference above.) A little mindfulness/appreciation of what one already has might go a long way (even in “Brooklyn, New York City where they paint murals of Biggie.” Shout out to Talib Kweli.) Maybe we could take “has” to a capital H place and give More a run for its insatiable-appetite-money? Granted, Zen characters void of passions/desires/vices don’t make for must-see big-time television, and I get this. Not many viewers are likely to tune in to pay-cable episodes of Dunham’s Hannah sitting on a meditation cushion in her reasonably priced apartment while she counts her breaths and the items on the long list of things she doesn’t need to reach enlightenment. Contentment just doesn’t sell.
            But I also wonder about the healthiness of selling white, upper-middle-class (potentially misplaced) existential discontent to American audience members who are likely still (knowingly or unknowingly) dragging their tired legs and credit scores through the hopefully soon-to-thin-out economic sludge. At what point is it socially inappropriate for viewers to be led to look at Hannah’s character [twenty-threeish, recent college-graduate, supportive parents, present friendship circle, somewhat healthy socio-sexual opportunities] with pity, simply because she doesn’t have the stellar life she has “always dreamed of” and “worked so hard for?” And before an answer is decided on, let’s consider that a recent New York Times article places the national unemployment rate at 7.5% and the national unemployment rate for college graduates at under 4%, meaning that Hannah’s prior-to-season-one-earned liberal arts degree puts her well ahead of the fictional (and, symbolically, real life) pack when it comes to running away from economic insecurity and/or poverty. Are we to feel bummed that she can’t make this runaway in oh-so-cool, unreleased Dr. Martens? Isn’t it more appropriate to feel bummed for those who can’t run/keep up in the first place? Isn’t it cooler to let the bummed feeling push us towards some sort of More-for-all (with no Emmy-nominated strings attached) program? Could that program make it on HBO? It’s More than TV, I’ve heard.

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